Play nicely with those who share the same address. Few things are as tedious as are constantly bickering couples. On the best of days finding harmony amid life's madness can be a challenge. Please do not add decorating discord to the list of topics . on which you and your spouse joust No one ever wins these bouts;. in fact everyone within earshot actually loses So think in terms of mutually beneficial negotiations as you hash through the thoughts and ideas shared by your life-partner and seek ways to weave together the single best idea each one brings to the table. Melding two design ideas under one roof is neither revolutionary nor improbable. In fact, it's been done for decades with happy relationships as a delightful by-product. Create visible reminders of the agreed upon direction (s) for your home. If "Big-City Modern with a touch of French Empire" is what's been agreed upon then make it the law of the land by memorializing the decision with a pin -board and shared idea-page. Own the decision which is the result of your hard-fought negotiations by establishing visual markers. This way those in your spheres of influence can hold you to your choice and support you as you together create your new home . Do not hesitate to call in professional reinforcements. There are times, both in the negotiation phase and in the shopping phase, when outside help can be priceless. Learn who the pros are in your area who you can call for that bit of non-partisan back-side kicking. And do not be shy about dialing their number. Writing a check for an hour or two of design consultation can mean the difference between a good room and a great room. You're worth it being great so do what's necessary. You will not regret the call.